Loving Mama

After tomorrow’s reflection, you won’t be hearing from me until after the holiday.  My mother is scheduled for eye surgery on Tuesday, so I’ll be staying with her for a few days to be sure her recuperation goes well. 

I know how lucky I am to have my mother in my life still.  I marvel at her spunk and energy even at 92 years old.  I sure hope she’s passed down those genes to me.  But what is most remarkable to me is that I’m actually looking forward to our spending time together.  It wasn’t always that way.  There were many years where we would not have been able to spend even a few hours together alone without my walking away feeling shattered. 

Oh sure, she still has the ability to “get” me, but not in the same way as before, and I believe that’s mostly because I have learned to see beyond her words.  I am now able to see her vulnerabilities and her fears, and I’ve come to understand and even respect her unwillingness to look closely at her own emotional wounds and seek healing.  Most of all, I’m able to feel her love for me.  It’s as if I’ve put on a brand new pair of glasses and am now able to see both of us like I never did before.

And so now, as I pack my bag with projects I’m hoping we might work on together, my heart is full of gratitude that I’ve been granted all these years with her to be able to reach this far, far better place.

“All disagreements are results of misunderstanding someone else’s level of consciousness.”  — Deepak Chopra

“Problems in relationships occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person.” — Wayne Dyer

“Our greatest joy and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others.” — Stephen R. Covey

“When you look for the good in others, you discover the best in yourself.” — Martin Walsh

May you find clarity in all of your relationships today and may you discover new paths to travel with the most challenging of them.

Enjoy your day!